When I was in high school I went through a very wearisome experience which, ironically, was a lifetime opportunity. The president of the Republic of Kenya then, Daniel Toroitich Arap Moi, had been kind to our school by supporting the construction of a modern Dinning hall and in addition buying goodies for all the girls, as many as we were. To appreciate him for his kind gesture a student was to write to him a thank you letter, a minimum of one and a half foolscap. This student happened to be me, not because I was the best in writing letters but mostly because I was the school head girl (captain if you want) and according to my headmistress, I was the best placed to represent the school. This was definitely a privilege, a lifetime opportunity. But the tedious part was nothing to celebrate. I did not have a good handwriting and so you can only imagine how difficult it was for me to write the letter. When I wrote the letter the first time, the headmistress looked at it and said, “Mary I can’t read this letter and the President can’t read it either, write again”. This happened three times and each time it was getting worse and both of us were getting more frustrated. At the fourth time she walked over to me placed her hand on my shoulder and told me, “Mary I believe you can write better than this, Just try one more time; I will be right here beside you”. That did it and the next piece I wrote was good enough to be handed over to the president! My relationship with my headmistress moved to another level; she was more than just an authority, but a mentor.What contributed towards the positive outcome in this difficult experience? It is the power of positivity. I was struggling with a shortcoming which I was painfully aware of. All through, I wished I could get it right, yet I feared to be condemned and judged if I don’t get it right. In the end my headmistress did what a good mentor should do-instead of being judgmental she saw beyond the negatives and conveyed hope. That is the reason I got it right at the last attempt. Lawrence club says, ‘Mentors speak three messages: ‘It can be done. You are not alone. I believe in you’. If my headmistress did not speak the positive words, I still wonder how many more times I would have tried to get it right or if I would have gotten it right at all.
In the Bible Paul as a mentor to Timothy spoke positive words to him many times; “For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline” 1Tim 1; 6, 7. It is no wonder that Timothy turned out to be the most effective Christina Evangelist in his time.
Would you this week consider using the power of positivity as a mentor? You will be surprised what this can do to your mentee. Try to apply the following tips;
Be eager to ‘see’ not only the present reality but also the possible future for the mentee-Vision
Be present to support and stick with your mentee-it makes all the difference in their ability to face the difficulties of life with hope-Encouragement.
Take every opportunity to celebrate with them for those wonderful breakthrough moments in their lives-Celebrating Progress.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][/vc_column][/vc_row]

This week I have been reading a book ‘Champion’ by David Ndegwa a former Golden Gloves amateur boxing champion and High School teacher. David uses his experience as a boxing Champion to demonstrate what it takes to fight life’s battles and become a Champion. Though the book was given to our 13 year old son as a gift upon his transition to adolescent I am learning lessons that apply to everyone not just a 13 year old.
This week I experienced two related episodes but in different settings. I was having a chat with a business owner and she made this comment, “I am glad that, after five years, my Business is now past the delicate stage. I was away for the last one week attending to some personal matters and I returned to find my business still on. It did not close down! But I am just not sure I can be away for longer than that. It seems hard to predict what can happen to my Business at any one point in time”
My mentoring relationship with Mercy (not her real name for confidentiality purposes) is unique because it’s neither one of those I planned for nor is it under a structured program. Mercy had just come back from the UK after being there for about 10 years. During this time she undertook a HR course and worked in the same line before deciding to come back home. As she was wondering where to go to church and find a mentor, her friend who is known to me invited her to our church and that is how we met. Young, pretty and educated Mercy was determined to find a footing in her own country. She further informed me she was looking towards achieving three things;

